This blog is a direct copy from my book " YOU ARE WISER THAN YOU
THINK". This information will set the stage for becoming more
informed on how to integrate your three selves successfully and easily.
For
easy translation: Spirit is also called the Higher Self, Emotions are
also known as the Smaller self and Intellect is also known as the
Middle Self.
Higher Self or Spirit
The higher self is not motivated by our needs but by what
is good for us as a whole being. The higher self knows the direction
our life needs to take in order for us to accomplish what it is we came
here to do. The higher self is not clouded by emotions, and therefore,
not mislead by the illusions that can confuse us and take us off our
path. It is a powerful teacher and the most direct way to deliver
information that will truly make guidance effective.
It can take information and gradually release it into the person’s awareness until they can understand it.
Higher
selves will work together as a team. This means if you consciously work
from your higher self then your higher self will, in turn, work in
harmony with the higher self of others thus achieving the best result
for all concerned.
The Higher self often doesn’t relate to the
material world, and though the ‘let go and let God’ is a wonderful
process, it is necessary to have a balance of the three selves to live
within that belief.
Middle Self or Intellect
The middle self is the bridge between the higher self and
the smaller self or emotional self. It is our voice of reason. The
middle self gets more involved in the processing of information and
helps to keep us centered so we are able to reason.
The middle self is great for appealing to when you want to move someone out of emotion and into reason.
If
you are too much in your middle self, you will find that you may lack
imagination, flexibility and spontaneity. You will also be over critical
of yourself and others. The middle self needs the influence of the
higher and the smaller self in order to keep itself balanced.
Smaller Self or Emotional Self
This is a wonderful part of our make up and can be our
strongest ally, worst enemy or most damaged and frightened child. Our
emotions are extremely powerful when it comes to the way in which we
communicate.
The smaller self is a great team player once it
trusts you. If you can get someone (this includes yourself) emotionally
involved in something you have a great start on the situation. Once you
win the smaller self’s trust and willingness to co-operate, you are
then ready to move forward to gaining the trust and co-operation of the
middle and higher selves.
If your smaller self is running your
life, you will be on an emotional roller coaster and constantly dealing
with drama. The smaller self needs the wisdom of intellect and
protection of spirit to be able to make sound decisions that can be put
into action in your life.
Who is running your life?
Do
you have trouble being around people who are different from you? If
you are low key, do high-energy people wear you out? Do you find that
you do the same thing and go the same places because it’s easier? Do you
have the same excuses for everything; cost too much, takes too much
time, I’ll do it later when I have such and such in place. This is how
our life looks when we have allowed one of our selves to dominate our
choices instead of all three of your selves influencing your decisions.
See if this seems familiar:
Your
middle self is running the show if you spend much of your time trying
to stay realistic in dealing with life. Paying those bills, being very
responsible and having no time for fun until that is taken care of. And
then when that is taken care of, there will be something else that has
to be done first. Play never happens.
If your smaller
self is in control you may forget to pay the bills because you have been
out shopping. Or, you may find yourself so caught up in the drama of
life that you are too emotionally stimulated that you can’t seem to come
up with a plan to solve the problem. You find yourself spinning your
wheels or on an emotional roller coaster.
Or last but not least, your higher self. Not being grounded: as in; what bills, oh, I need to pay those?
You
will find your life will become a lot more fun and productive once you
start to work with each aspect of your self. There will be times when it
will benefit you to let one self be more dominant, but the important
thing is that it is a conscious choice.
Here are some
situations which all of us have been in where we allow one self to “run
the show” to get the job done. Even though the other selves are still
present, we consciously let one self dominate.
1 It’s time to do your taxes so you consciously move into your middle self, the intellect, and get it done.
2 It’s time to play with your kids, so you allow yourself to lighten up and go out and play.
3
You need to “be big” about something and let someone have their way
even though you might not agree. You know they need to win this time so
you put your ego on hold and step into your higher self and allow.
Being
able to let one self “lead” is a good sign that your three selves are
clear on what their task is and as a result, you are able to focus and
get the job done effectively and easily with your three selves working
as a team.
When each of the selves wants to be in charge
at the same time there arises an internal struggle. In this situation
our life can become a casualty of the struggle and we lose control over
the out come of the situation.
Some scenarios could be:
Small self in charge -
You
sit down to do your taxes but have to have the television on knowing
full well that you are setting yourself up to get distracted so a one
hour job, takes three. And the real kicker is you know that is what
will happen and do it anyway.
Middle self in charge –
Perhaps,
with good intent, when you play with your children you have an
overwhelming desire to point out faults instead of letting it go and
enjoy the playtime.
When the spiritual self is not present -
Or,
no matter how much you would like to let that person have his/her way
you just have to have the last word as they walk out the door even
though you know, doing so, will gain nothing positive.
So,
what’s going on? Basically, your three selves are all fighting to run
the show and there is no communication between the selves or with your
conscious mind so there is no exchange of information occurring.
Everyone is fighting over the same bone, and all are only coming away
with a piece. As a result, you are having a constant struggle to get
anything completed.
Your middle self doesn’t trust your child to have fun because your child is not responsible.
Your
child doesn’t like your middle self because it doesn’t know how to
lighten up and keeps messing things up by trying to force everything.
Your
higher self isn’t heard by either of the others because they are always
fighting over who is right, and therefore your spiritual life is
getting almost no attention and you feel like you have no purpose.
And you wonder why you can’t make a decision about what you want to do in your life!
In
the next couple of blogs we are going to put some of this into action,
get all of the aspects talking and bring about internal peace and
external success in your life.