"Are They Building You Up, Or Cutting You Down?" . A lot of my clients call asking about relationships, over the years it has made me realize a lot about how, "healthy relationships" are and how "toxic relationships are". My clients have taught me more than they will ever know, and for that I thank you. Ok, so here it is! I feel that everyone on this earth should be very careful as to who they depend on for a, "pick me up" or "self-esteem boost". If you depend on someone who is toxic and that I call the, "invalidator". The invalidator will shower you with nice comments until you are basically dependent on them, then they will pick you apart piece by piece until they are in control. The toxic persons goal is to get you introverted and introspective so that you do not notice what is going on outside yourself. The invalidator will attempt to pull you down. The invalidator may feel that he/she worries too much, while you may appear calm and confident. When he/she can pull you down to his/her level and you start worrying more, then he/she feels, "better than" or "more worthy". The strange thing is toxic people that come into our life, are the very same ones that will be the first to help. After a bit, you will begin to worry only about what he/she thinks. Or what they will do? Whether they will be angry at you or not. This can cause you to stop looking at yourself after a while because you see so much wrong and you feel like you depend on him/her for your sense of worth. The solution to breaking free from a "toxic person" who I call the, "invalidator" is to be aware. I hope this blog has brought you knowledge and awareness to those who feel stuck in something unhealthy. To those who have found a life partner, take a moment to give gratitude to a higher power, that brought you exactly what you'd hoped for, Their is an old saying, "Nobody is worth your tears and the one that is, "won't make you cry". Psychic Michael ext. 3303